Many of us find ourselves agreeing to things we later regret but why do we do it? Often we worry what others may think of us and I feel a lot of the time when reading for people they panic a lot about how they are perceived.
However, another way to look at it is that there are many people out there that like strong minded people. A lot of peers and friends will gain respect for you when you say no and may even take your powerful stance into account in their own lives.
The following are some things to say to yourself when it comes to saying no:
- If I say no to someone and they get angry, this does not mean I should have said yes.
- Saying no does not make me selfish.
- Although I want to please the people I care about, I do not have to please them all the time.
- It is okay to want or need something from someone else.
- My wants and needs are just as important as those of anyone else.
- I have the right to assert myself, even if I may inconvenience others
Sometimes it can be very hard to know when to exercise your right to say no and when to just put up with things and get it over and done with. From a spiritual point of view I’m always eager to help people but I also have to know when to look after myself. As a strong psychic I’d be silly to tire myself out to the point where I couldn’t help my clients.
Intuition goes a long way in situations like this as well and whenever you get a little voice in your head or you find yourself hesitating when asked to do something then take this as a sign from the universe that maybe saying no would be in your best interests.
The more you exercise this right the more you will be able to hear and recognise the signs of someone taking advantage of you. If someone keeps asking the same from you when they promised something different then keep denying them and they will soon change their tune.
It goes to show that not only will you help yourself when being more assertive but you will also help others to see that their actions aren’t necessarily helpful to you or to themselves and that they will gain much more from life by being more balanced and more honest.
If you’re unsure when the right time to refuse things by saying no is or why someone keeps wanting you to say yes then why not speak to one of our wonderful Sundial Psychic readers?